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context: ''
sidebar_label: Advice and admonishment
domain:
- '[[Loquaciousness|Loquaciousness]]'
- '[[Commanding good and forbidding evil|Commanding good and forbidding evil]]'
- '[[Managing spouse|Managing spouse]]'
- '[[Parenting|Parenting]]'
dependency: ''
recurrence: ''
due: ''
type: process
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* Link to [Loquaciousness](Objective/bad%20traits/Loquaciousness.md): Only speak for Allah's sake, following the principles of commanding good and forbidding evil.
* Link to [Commanding good and forbidding evil](Objective/worship/Commanding%20good%20and%20forbidding%20evil.md):
	* Forbid evil by following this order:
		* First, explain the offensive nature of the act.
		* Second, admonish the person politely in a gentle manner (motivation).
		* Third, harshly reprimand him.
		* Fourth, forcibly stop the wrong.
		* Fifth, threaten or hit the person to stop the offense.
	* Only address clearly forbidden/obligatory acts that you are knowledgeable about.
	* Stop at the second level for rulers and the fourth level for the spouse and family members.
	* When it comes to commanding good, encourage good behavior through da'wah, even by sharing a single verse of the Quran.
	* When admonishing, be merciful and patient because Allah is like that with you — He forbears despite knowing your faults.
* Link to [Managing spouse](Objective/worship/Managing%20spouse.md):
	* For the wife specifically, discipline her if she's rebellious through the first four levels. Then don't bed her, then be rough (but not in the face and don't leave a mark), then diplomacy through another person, then divorce.
	* Do not taunt or bring up the past when your spouse becomes obedient.
	* Ensure they understand their own religious obligations.
* Link to [Parenting](Objective/worship/Parenting.md): play (0-7), discipline (7-14), befriend (14+)
	* When your child deliberately misbehaves, talk to him privately without labeling him (focus on the actions), by following the levels and use consequences instead of punishments (ex. spilling means cleaning)
	* If the misbehavior is religious in nature, encourage them to seek forgiveness from Allah.

> [!tip] summary
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> Instruct only for Allah's sake, using appropriate levels of persuasion and force, and discipline family members according to their rebellion level.
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